You may have heard on the news that domestic abuse has increased during the pandemic. Police forces have reported an increase in offences related to domestic abuse and charities are receiving more calls from people seeking help.
It can be easy to think that domestic abuse only involves physical violence, but that isn’t the case. Domestic abuse can involve a wide range of behaviours that are designed to control the victim. Here are some examples:
- Destroying objects, such as the TV,
- Making accusations of flirting or having affairs,
- Restricting access to money,
- Threatening to leave or get a divorce,
- Reading private emails, text messages, or letters,
- Tampering with medication,
- Making fun of personal values, including spiritual beliefs,
- Excluding family members.
Although domestic abuse is most commonly perpetrated by men against women, anyone can be a victim of domestic abuse and anyone can be an abuser.
Older people may experience abuse from their spouse or family members. It can be difficult for older people to realise that they are experiencing abuse. They may have lived with their abusive partner or family members for a very long time and may see abusive behaviours as normal. It can be difficult to imagine a life free from abuse.
If a partner or family member makes you feel frightened or hurts you, there is help available.
Always call 999 if you are in danger. You can access silent help by calling 999 and if you can’t talk press 55 and the operator will respond.
Women in Havering who are not in immediate danger can call Solace Women’s Aid on 0808 802 5565 or email advice@solacewomensaid.org. You can talk about what you’ve been experiencing with a trained advisor who can support you and, if you would like, help you to access further support, such as counselling. Visit website Solace Women’s Aid
Men can get support by calling the Men’s Advice Line on 0808 8010327 or emailing info@mensadviceline.org.uk. Visit website Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men
If you are worried about your own behaviour, you can call the Respect Phoneline on 0808 8024040 or email info@respectphoneline.org.uk. Visit website Help For Domestic Violence Perpetrators
Cara Atkinson is the Project Manager for Ascent at Solace Women’s Aid. The charity offers free advice and support to women and children in London to build safe and strong lives. Futures free from abuse and violence. www.solacewomensaid.org